Comments on: The College Years: How I Told My Wife http://www.jessica-who.com/2009/04/how-i-told-my-wife-final-college-years/ Official Transgender Crossdresser Website Blog of Comedian Jessica De Leon Fri, 10 Feb 2012 17:38:26 +0000 hourly 1 By: Sophia http://www.jessica-who.com/2009/04/how-i-told-my-wife-final-college-years/comment-page-1/#comment-57004 Sophia Tue, 18 Oct 2011 20:07:22 +0000 http://www.jessica-who.com/?p=12#comment-57004 Hi there! I just wanted to say that I have found a lot of your blog posts and your wife's blog really helpful. When my boyfriend first told me about his cross-dressing he was very subtle about it. Since it was so subtle I sort of dismissed it, but was accepting at the same time. Because he hardly ever mentioned it I was unsure. So I bought him a Victoria Secret's Giftcard for our first x-mas sort of like "hey you mentioned this part of yourself to me, but you haven't said much since but here is a present that I thought you would like" I think this might have an opening because then he was more open and honest about how much he wanted to take his cross-dressing after that (Since then I've bought him lingerie and stuff which has been fun hehe! :) ). To be honest as open and accepting as I was I have experienced a lot of the emotions your wife describes in her blog. Reading her blog is really helping me feel safe and with support so that I can in turn give my boyfriend the best support possible. Thank you. I honestly wanted to know more like she did. I started by looking up videos of Eddie Izzard the only cross dresser I had ever heard of and luckily through doing fell upon one of your videos. Your blog and her blog were the exact kind of things I was looking for. Real people, to know that me and him weren't alone. <3 Hi there! I just wanted to say that I have found a lot of your blog posts and your wife’s blog really helpful. When my boyfriend first told me about his cross-dressing he was very subtle about it. Since it was so subtle I sort of dismissed it, but was accepting at the same time. Because he hardly ever mentioned it I was unsure. So I bought him a Victoria Secret’s Giftcard for our first x-mas sort of like “hey you mentioned this part of yourself to me, but you haven’t said much since but here is a present that I thought you would like” I think this might have an opening because then he was more open and honest about how much he wanted to take his cross-dressing after that (Since then I’ve bought him lingerie and stuff which has been fun hehe! :) ). To be honest as open and accepting as I was I have experienced a lot of the emotions your wife describes in her blog. Reading her blog is really helping me feel safe and with support so that I can in turn give my boyfriend the best support possible. Thank you. I honestly wanted to know more like she did. I started by looking up videos of Eddie Izzard the only cross dresser I had ever heard of and luckily through doing fell upon one of your videos.
Your blog and her blog were the exact kind of things I was looking for. Real people, to know that me and him weren’t alone. <3

]]> By: Jessica Who Podcast #2 – Telling Your Wife That You’re A Crossdresser http://www.jessica-who.com/2009/04/how-i-told-my-wife-final-college-years/comment-page-1/#comment-48084 Jessica Who Podcast #2 – Telling Your Wife That You’re A Crossdresser Fri, 08 Jul 2011 04:46:09 +0000 http://www.jessica-who.com/?p=12#comment-48084 [...] How I Told My Wife Post [...] [...] How I Told My Wife Post [...]

]]> By: Jessica De Leon http://www.jessica-who.com/2009/04/how-i-told-my-wife-final-college-years/comment-page-1/#comment-896 Jessica De Leon Tue, 08 Sep 2009 19:32:07 +0000 http://www.jessica-who.com/?p=12#comment-896 Hi Dianna, Thanks for being so accepting of your boyfriend, crossdressing can be a tough issue but it is possible to work together, as you said. Sex can be part of it, it depends on the person. For some, having sex while dressed is the ultimate pleasure, or perhaps they are curious as to how they will feel emotionally. Appreciate the comment, take care. Jessica Hi Dianna,

Thanks for being so accepting of your boyfriend, crossdressing can be a tough issue but it is possible to work together, as you said. Sex can be part of it, it depends on the person. For some, having sex while dressed is the ultimate pleasure, or perhaps they are curious as to how they will feel emotionally. Appreciate the comment, take care.

Jessica

]]> By: dianna http://www.jessica-who.com/2009/04/how-i-told-my-wife-final-college-years/comment-page-1/#comment-879 dianna Tue, 08 Sep 2009 06:20:35 +0000 http://www.jessica-who.com/?p=12#comment-879 i am female who is dateing a wonderful man who happens to be a crossdresser. when i first found out i did not know anything about crossdressing. i thought oh my god he is gay! i found a good one and he is gay... i thought because he wore wemons clothes he had to begay. it took me some time to learn about crossdressers, and why they wore female clothing. i was glad though, he is a wonderful man and should i say a pretty sexy gal too.. what i am saying is it is not the easiest thing in a relationship, but if you really love the person you can work threw the bumps in the road and make it.. i am just so uncomfortable with haveing sex with him dressed that way.. i am trying to change that though.. could someone explain to me why do u have sex like a wemon?? not all the time just one in a blue moon, but i still can not understand that.. he is just dressed like a wemon, and he is a wonderful lover i just do not understand that part...any ways thanks for listening to me babble here.. talk another time..... di i am female who is dateing a wonderful man who happens to be a crossdresser. when i first found out i did not know anything about crossdressing. i thought oh my god he is gay! i found a good one and he is gay… i thought because he wore wemons clothes he had to begay. it took me some time to learn about crossdressers, and why they wore female clothing. i was glad though, he is a wonderful man and should i say a pretty sexy gal too.. what i am saying is it is not the easiest thing in a relationship, but if you really love the person you can work threw the bumps in the road and make it.. i am just so uncomfortable with haveing sex with him dressed that way.. i am trying to change that though.. could someone explain to me why do u have sex like a wemon?? not all the time just one in a blue moon, but i still can not understand that.. he is just dressed like a wemon, and he is a wonderful lover i just do not understand that part…any ways thanks for listening to me babble here.. talk another time….. di

]]> By: Jessica http://www.jessica-who.com/2009/04/how-i-told-my-wife-final-college-years/comment-page-1/#comment-6 Jessica Sun, 26 Apr 2009 02:33:00 +0000 http://www.jessica-who.com/?p=12#comment-6 Shortly before I began writing this entry, I remembered that at the time I was not a member of any online crossdressing community. I hadn't received any advice on whether or not to tell your girlfriend, let alone how. I just knew that I had to lay out all my cards, and see how she reacted. I believe that I downplayed it somewhat, as she now testifies. <br /><br />However, in the long run it was one of the best things I did for our relationship. We wouldn't be where we are now if I hadn't decided to "spill the beans", as it were. I do wish we could all be so blessed, but I know that there are married crossdressers out there with no hope of acceptance.<br /><br />My wish is that people out there in relationships can heed our words and try to deal with the whole crossdressing thing as appropriately as possible. Shortly before I began writing this entry, I remembered that at the time I was not a member of any online crossdressing community. I hadn’t received any advice on whether or not to tell your girlfriend, let alone how. I just knew that I had to lay out all my cards, and see how she reacted. I believe that I downplayed it somewhat, as she now testifies.

However, in the long run it was one of the best things I did for our relationship. We wouldn’t be where we are now if I hadn’t decided to “spill the beans”, as it were. I do wish we could all be so blessed, but I know that there are married crossdressers out there with no hope of acceptance.

My wish is that people out there in relationships can heed our words and try to deal with the whole crossdressing thing as appropriately as possible.

]]> By: Gabrielle http://www.jessica-who.com/2009/04/how-i-told-my-wife-final-college-years/comment-page-1/#comment-5 Gabrielle Sun, 26 Apr 2009 02:24:00 +0000 http://www.jessica-who.com/?p=12#comment-5 Very interesting. In my case, I thought that when I married a beautiful woman that rocked my world (and also happened to dress exactly the way I'd like to), that my urges would go away. Of course, they did not.<br /><br />I applaud you for telling her before getting married. That is exactly how every cd should do it. I waited more than a decade before telling my wife. I got lucky because she's been great about it. Another happily married cd with an accepting wife. :) If only we all ended up with women who loved us *completely*, and not just our man-side. Very interesting. In my case, I thought that when I married a beautiful woman that rocked my world (and also happened to dress exactly the way I’d like to), that my urges would go away. Of course, they did not.

I applaud you for telling her before getting married. That is exactly how every cd should do it. I waited more than a decade before telling my wife. I got lucky because she’s been great about it. Another happily married cd with an accepting wife. :) If only we all ended up with women who loved us *completely*, and not just our man-side.

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