I decided to tell my mother about myself when I went home last Christmas. I decided to go out to a restaurant, just the two of us, and proceeded to share this long-kept secret. For the next three days, we discussed different things, including my experiences throughout my childhood and teenage years.
When I started this blog, I asked my mom if she would be willing to do an interview for it. I thought that it could be beneficial for parents, loved ones and friends of crossdressers to read and she agreed. My mom was more than willing and I will share it with you all below.
Interview with Mom
How did you find out about your son being a crossdresser?
He told me.
What was your first reaction upon hearing it?
Surprised. It took a while for me to believe I was hearing this live. Then special that he shared with ME. I also felt a sense of relief on his end.
Do you remember exactly how you were told? If so, please explain.
Yes, we went out to lunch and almost immediately after we sat at the table, I knew he was very nervous.
Would you have preferred another way of finding out?
No, I think this was perfect! Glad to hear it from him when he was ready.
Does knowing this change your outlook on your son? If so, please explain?
Not at all. He is my son, my first born, and I love everything he is and everything he represents.
Looking back, did you ever have any suspicions?
None at all. Surprise!!
If not, do you remember your son having any feminine traits or qualities?
Never. He loved sports, had many buddies, loved everything that boys normally love. And was involved in everything that boys are normally involved in.
If you had the opportunity to know about his crossdressing earlier, would you have preferred to know then?
If yes, what are some of the benefits and disadvantages that you think you both would have experinenced?
Had my son shared this with me earlier in his life, I would like to think that things might have been easier and certainly less stressful for him. We might have been able to address much of his confusion, talked about his feelings and perhaps I might have been able to help him to feel more comfortable and normal with what he was experiencing. I don’t like to think that he might have felt isolated, sad, stressed, anxious, alone, or any other feelings that one may experience during this time.
What are some of the roles you have played in your son’s life.
I would like to think that I have been a great mother, friend, listener, and most important a mother who has loved her son unconditionally and has supported him fully, always.
Why do you think he chose to tell you when he did?
I think that this was probably when he was ready. I think that he had reached a certain comfort level with himself, gained a better understanding of himself and telling me and/or whoever he chose to tell, would allow him to feel more comfortable and more of his true self when surrounded by those who are most important to him.
What are some of your worries (if any) that you have about his crossdressing?
Simply that this would consume too much of his life. Maybe also that he would share it with someone who would not be accepting.
What are some things that you think would enhance your understanding of crossdressing and crossdressers as a whole?
Do you have any advice for the parents or any other loved ones of crossdressers?
Well, yes… please please, be accepting, love unconditional, this does not change who they are… who they REALLY are.