15 Steps To Better Crossdressing – Part Five

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When it comes to crossdressing, most are constantly looking to improve. Sure, there are masters in our midst, but the rest of us always want that latest tip or just general advice. I have compiled a list of fifteen steps to becoming the best crossdresser that you can be.

Before we get to our Top 3 Steps to Better Crossdressing, let’s recap the first twelve

• 15. Dress Up & Go Out
• 14. Read Fashion Magazines
• 13. Accessorize!
• 12. Try On Clothes (In Store)
• 11. Attend a Conference
• 10. Improve Your Physical & Mental Health
• 9. Tell Someone
• 8. Read a Book on Crossdressing
• 7. Take Your Femme Persona Online
• 6. Dress Up on Halloween
• 5. Take on a Femme Name (if you like)
• 4. Buy & Practice Makeup

Jessica Who? now proudly presents our top three steps to better crossdressing.

3. Find Your Body Type

If you’re truly serious about dressing to look your best, you should probably try to figure out your body type and dress appropriately. Many of us have big shoulders, big arms, and no hips, but do not panic. There are women with these same qualities and there are clothes out there that can downplay some of these features.

Here are a couple of links to help you determine your own body type.

• YouLookFab.com
• eHow.com

This is not set in stone, though. I’m definitely an advocate of wearing what you want where you want, but these are just some general guidelines that will make you look better in your clothes.

2. Shopping

Yes, that’s right: Shopping! Most of you (if not all) undoubtedly have a handle on this. We must shop to build a wardrobe, and whether this is online or in store, try your best to have fun with it. For some, it is even more enjoyable than the actual application of makeup and dressing.
Online shopping is fun because it allows you to browse quickly and anonymously, but of course in store shopping is just the best. If you have shopping buddies, it can be an even greater experience. In addition to clothing, there are wigs, shoes, accessories and padding to shop for.

I’ve never shopped in drag but I have a friend who has, and she tells me that it is a wonderful time. I’ll definitely have to try that one day.

1. Accept Yourself

Accepting yourself for who you are is the most important step in becoming a better crossdresser. I know that it’s a bold claim, but one that I feel very strongly about. My wife and I briefly debated this one, but I ultimately convinced her that this should be the top choice.

You can have the trendiest clothing, the most beautiful wig, the best makeup collection and skills but without acceptance you will actually have little. Remember that being a crossdresser is not wrong, it is a beautiful gift (thanks, Gabi!) that should be expressed and not bottled up like some sort of pestilence.

Now, this is certainly no easy feat, and I will not pretend that it is. As you all have read, I have had my own set of struggles that are not much different from your own. It will be a gradual process, one that can be expedited by a support group, loving family, an encouraging significant other, and by following some of these steps that I have presented to you.

Unfortunately, there is no magic fix for this one. Nothing that you can buy or read will do more than for you than you can do on your own. Our society has shoved gender stereotypes down our throat for all of our lives and it can be quite difficult to undo them. I am working toward acceptance just like many of you all out there, and if you ever need support you know how to reach me. As I always tell my friends and family, “you’ve gotta do what makes you happy.”

Thanks so much for reading through my 15 steps to better crossdressing. I hope that you enjoyed them and that they can help you in your journey as a crossdresser. Stay tuned for a surprise on Monday!

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• 15 Steps To Better Crossdressing – Part One
• 15 Steps To Better Crossdressing – Part Two
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