Comments on: How to Beat the Urge to Purge

By: Sandar Roberts

Sandar Roberts — Fri, 02 Dec 2011 16:46:52 +0000

I am on thew verge of my first purge. I am 49.
Recently I have started to go too far with the sex side of dressing up.
Before I throw anything , I will seek professional help. I have joined a church. My wife knows what I am doing. there is a long way to go.
I love my clothes, I need to learn to dress up with pride and consideration.

By: Ellen

Ellen — Wed, 11 May 2011 14:44:26 +0000

I decided to quit purging and just enjoy my life. I seem to better understand women when I dress as a female. It keeps me balanced.

By: Kelsey

Kelsey — Wed, 27 Apr 2011 21:33:17 +0000

I’m a young crossdresser, 18, who has been dressing on and off for a few years now, but never really got into the whole community. I never knew that “purging” actually happens with other girls!

By: Song

Song — Wed, 20 Apr 2011 20:28:41 +0000

Purging is a real pain later. There were so many cute things and they just are not available anymore. If I scrounge and dive into EBAY I can find them, sometimes but I will never see the cute pantyslip babydoll combo that must have really been cut for a guys you know… and it fit so well. It was also a natural A cup , not too frilly but very pretty and i fealt so special. There are a lot of cute things in Amsterdam and SanFran but they want so much money. I really feel if I purge again I’ll have to take out a loan to recoup. My advice girlfriends is simply this. go to the military surplus store and get a footlocker or a sea chest. Put a lock on it. Keep all your cute things in there. If you feel bad about whatever… lock it up and mail the key to yourself. By the time it comes back you’ll be wanting the cute garter, hose and the naughty thing (you know what I mean) This way is a lot cheaper and the Postal Service will carefully deliver your message to yourself, be sweet girlfriend. OBTW, if you want to purge and discard your Sybian … call me.

By: Warren

Warren — Sat, 10 Jul 2010 12:29:08 +0000

Thanks for the warning! I have been thinking of purging and going back to normal (not cd-ing} but I very well might go back to crossdressing one day. I have not built up a huge supply. Life is interesting.

By: Julie M Shaw

Julie M Shaw — Tue, 16 Feb 2010 00:07:11 +0000

I was just in communication with a Sister on My Space about this very topic. I wish I had seen this entry – you put it so much better and clear than I could. I’ll send her here to get your input on the topic.

Thanks for putting yourself out there – sharing your personal experiences – good and bad – for the rest of us to learn from.

By: Jessica De Leon

Jessica De Leon — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 19:35:55 +0000

Thanks for sharing my article Ellen, I really do hope that it can help confused crossdressers

By: Ellen

Ellen — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 23:01:55 +0000

Jessica, After I read this post, I forwarded it to a Cd I just recently met. We are both TGNA members and have corresponded occasionaly, and we live close. She had just recently PURGED! Now she is in need. (Its not like I never had done it before) But the message against this disruptive behavior needs to be broadcast loudly. The stress after the purge is nearly always greater than the push that caused it.

Ellen

By: Jessica De Leon

Jessica De Leon — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 00:22:30 +0000

That’s true, you really quit something when it’s accessible but you don’t do it.

Yea, now I’m all about pictures too. It’s crazy, I spend like half the time just on photographing myself

By: Brit

Brit — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 00:21:03 +0000

I never purged for one reason. At the time when you do, you want to stop dressing, I have wanted to many many times, but I always thought that if I had access to the clothes, but still didn’t wear them, that would show that I really did stop. If I just didn’t wear them because I didn’t have them I would always feel like part of me was missing, and it was.
As for the pictures, I’ve had so many picture that were on an old computer that crashed, I so wish I could get those back, but not having those gives me motivation to get new ones!

By: Jessica De Leon

Jessica De Leon — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 19:17:00 +0000

Thanks, Rachel. I hope that the next time the purging bug buzzes in your ear, you take the biggest most awesome bug swatter and smash it!!! LOL

By: Rachel

Rachel — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 15:24:03 +0000

I have done the purge multiple times, and it always comes back to bite me in the ass, but somehow I don’t learn my lesson.

sigh…the shoes and clothes i’ve tossed.

and yes, the photos! i have so many photos i’ve lost, and recently it’s been really difficult to take photos. i can’t tell you how much i wish i had those old ones.

good alternatives, jessica! i like your perspective and approach. i’ll be sure to keep them in mind if i’m seized by the purging bug again.

By: Jessica De Leon

Jessica De Leon — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 02:59:25 +0000

Indeed, you live and learn. My biggest regret from purging is that I deleted several of my early photos in drag… I can never get them back and every so often I wish I could see them, but alas, such is the price of purging.

By: Lynn Jones

Lynn Jones — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 19:21:12 +0000

> resumed the conversation.

I think this is the only way through it. You’ve got to keep communication open. Sure, sometimes you need to know when to shut-up, but talking it over is paramount. IMO, it’s the only way to stop the fear… for both of you.

Purging? I did it the once way back when I’d turned 20. I didn’t have much, but what I did, I threw away or gave to local charity shops. I was so scared they’d find out it was my stuff, which is, of course, complete tosh. It’s not like I’d written my name in the back the dress

To those considering throwing it all away: please don’t. As Jessica suggests, box it up (U-store-it?) or put it in a locked suitcase. Just don’t throw stuff as it’s like setting fire to money. Only without the smoke and legal issues Not sure? Well, okay, keep it locked up for 6 months and if you still feel the same way, have a clear out of items you don’t want / need. Give it a bit longer after than and if you’ve managed a whole year, repeat the process.

My ‘going straight’ period lasted about 8 months. Sure, I’d chucked it all away, but the drive to do it remained. Not a good time really, but hey, as Alanis once sang: you live, you learn