Jessica is not a name given to me by my parents, but when I went away to college and began to explore my gender identity further, I decided on the name. At the time, I must admit that I simply chose a female name because I saw everyone else on the internet doing it. There wasn’t some sort of buildup to this, I just sat for a few days and pondered the name issue.
I selected Jessica because I thought it was so feminine and pretty, and that’s exactly how I always wanted to feel while dressed up as a girl. Toward the end of last year, however, I considered dropping the name altogether and just using my male name always, but after really thinking about it I decided against it.
That reflection helped solidify why I chose the name, and it made me feel more confident in the decision to take a femme name. I think you’d agree that it isn’t unique by any stretch of the imagination as there are tons of Jessicas out there. I do get a laugh though whenever I’m out somewhere and see or hear my name.
3. Jessica Simpson
2. Jessica Biel
1. Jessica Alba
If you google Jessica Alba, Biel, or Simpson you are directed to their official websites, movies, music and pictures. As of today, most search engines actually list me as a top result for Jessica De Leon. Hopefully with your help I’ll be #1 someday 
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All three of these Jessicas are gorgeous in my opinion, and I think they are a terrific representation of the name. It may be weird, but I feel a certain type of connection with them. How about you? Do you have an affinity for women that share your femme name? Maybe you chose your name based on a famous actor, singer or historical figure? Leave a comment, I’d love to hear your story. Ciao, girlfriends and happy 4th of July!
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No Jessica Rabbit?
What’s in a name? There’s a question… mine came from the need for a generic username in a chatroom (no, not that type of chatroom) and I’d use ‘Linn’. Not exactly sure to this day, but I guess not M nor F and not necessarily English either.
Anyways, as my TG activities increased… well, you can’t be all dressed up and call yourself Frank now can you?
So, I settled on Lynn.
@Lynn > Hehe, you know I was actually considering putting Jessica Rabbit in that list.
My name is the one chosen by my mother had I arrived as the female I shoulda been. I was born a few months after Lesley Anne Warren made a big splash in TV’s Cinderella. I suspect that was Mom’s inspiration. Not a bad namesake. And maybe one day, if I share this aspect of myself with my mother, she’ll be flattered that I chose it.
@ Leslie > Wow, that’s a great story. I have a friend who knows the girl name his Mom would have used had he been born female.
Great post, Jessica! I enjoyed it.
The name issue is one I’ve given a lot of thought over the years. I, too, once considered using my “would have been” birth name. I didn’t, because when I first chose my name I had a friend who was also named Tiffany, so it just seemed like a weird thing to do. My name comes from a little game I played in my head as a kid. I never had a nickname growing up, but several people did call me by my initials – “K.D.” Whenever I heard that, I would mentally interpret it as “Katie,” and would thrill at the notion of being called a girl!
Jessica is a beautiful name by the way; I’m happy for you that you decided to keep it.
Thanks Katie! What a unique way to choose a femme name, that’s so cool. I appreciate the compliment, I love my name and really happy I didn’t ditch it
Great post, Jessica! And all 3 of those Jessicas are amazing, I agree.
My name was picked rather randomly. My wife sat down the first day I dressed up and started listing names off. I think Savanna was the second name she listed and it just hit me. It just sounded so feminine, soft, pleasant. I immediately chose it and have stuck with it. I like that it seems pretty rare as well =)
Thanks, Savanna!
That’s great that your wife played a major role in choosing your name, I like it as well, it’s very pretty.
A names an odd thing. One to choose & settle on I guess is not a small choice. Mine sort of chose me & possibly comes from an odd source.
My mind set about Lara started off a a terribly pessemistic one.
The old phrase ‘lifes a bitch & then you die’, as pessemistic as you can be. Well being a sailor I have have a simular variation , ‘ Lifes a reach & then you gybe’ I.e all sailing along nicely & then something nasty happens . That used to be my mind set. The attitude has changed , but my name remains. L.a.r.a. T.y.g. is just an accronym of the above.
phrase. (I do find it annoying when folk say ‘Lara ….as in Croft !’ though!)
Nice post Jessica :O)
@LaraTyg > Holy moly, that’s really cool! Thanks so much for sharing that