A stressful but otherwise uneventful weekend was interrupted by a phone call from my wife. At the moment, I am packing our belongings as we finalize our cross-country move. Her sister came to visit for the weekend, and I figured that they would have a terrific time together; I had no idea what was in store.
“She knows your secret” was how my wife phrased it. Fully aware of what she meant but playing a bit coy (I was on speakerphone) I responded with feigned confusion. After a few moments, it had been established — another person was in the loop.
Here’s how it happened. My wife forgot to hide my newly-purchased wig and my sister-in-law spotted it. When she asked whose it was, Rebecca matter of factly stated that it was mine. At first, her sis didn’t believe it and asked twice more, each time receiving the same answer. Then, she spotted the teal dress that I bought and said how cute it was. Under my wife’s instruction, she inspected the label — it wasn’t her size.
Unfortunately, I wasn’t there for the obligatory conversation, but as far as I know she thinks it’s pretty cool and certainly is not offended by it. She even saw some pictures and mentioned that I looked good. I’m hoping to have chat with her about it soon, just to see if there’s any curiosity looming on her end.
This represents yet another step forward, for both of us. My wife has been a bit apprehensive about sharing with more of our family and friends, and rightly so. It is a daunting proposition, but we are blessed with such a great bunch of loved ones. There’s some doubt every now and then, but deep down in my heart I know that things will work out for the best.
Conditions are never going to be perfect when and if you choose to share with somebody close to you, and sometimes (like this weekend) people find out by accident. My best advice is to always be prepared for what life throws at you while hoping and praying for the best.
I am so thankful for such a wonderful and ever-growing support group and I wish the same for all of you. Until next time: Ciao, girlfriends!
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My wife is fearful that other members of our family will discover ‘my secret’. I have a cousin whom I feel sure would understand, but dare I take the risk?
Your wife handled the discovery remarkably well and I’m SO pleased that it’s worked out so well for you.
Hugs,
Angie
Hey Angie,
Yea, we used to be terrified. Whenever family was coming into town it was a mad dash to hide every single item of mine. One day, my wife just said, “they’ll probably just think this stuff is mine”.
I stopped caring as well, I figured — Hey, this is my house
I kept asking my wife how she felt about her sister knowing, and she is fine with it. Thanks for your support Angie
Jessica
So good to see it’s working out for you. The post was a joy to read.
Thanks
Karen
Thanks Karen, I really appreciate it
Nice that you found out about the sharing of the secret immediately. My sister-in-law was in the loop for twenty years before I got wind of it. A little shocking when I learned of it, but she proved that she could keep a secret.
Wow, that’s a long time to keep a secret … Was she accepting?
She defends her sister, but I had a long talk with her after I learned of it. She has no problem with it. She believes that everyone is in drag all the time, trying to influence the way people think of us through our presentation. I recently asked if she would be willing to go shopping with me, and she’s ready when I am. A very smart, progressive, and fashionable lady.
Oh that’s great to hear! Happy shopping