Comments on: Your Feminine Insecurities

By: Louise

Louise — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 13:37:11 +0000

Jessica, just read this article about your Feminine Insecurities and loved your vision of what is important. My wife and I fight everyday about little things about our looks. My insecurities are only from my perspective and her’s also. Lets all learn from your vision. We need to pass it on to others and help them be encouraged by what they have and not what they think they should have. I have beautiful blue eyes that men love and I am so proud of myself. The glass is always half full and not half empty. Your articles continue to help me everyday. Love you girl.
Louise

By: Jessica De Leon

Jessica De Leon — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 00:10:40 +0000

You bring up a great point: women do come in all shapes and sizes and realizing this does wonders for your self-esteem as a transgendered person

By: Kristen Kelly

Kristen Kelly — Sat, 26 Sep 2009 14:34:54 +0000

In the past if there was 1 thing I wish I could change it would be being big boned, but not now. Women come in all shapes and sizes, take a seat center court at a mall (preferable enfem) and watch the women and young girls go by, not all are petite, or totally feminine. Address your Achilles heel, learn to work around it or learn to live with it. In the past I would never wear sleeveless dresses, but from my seat I saw I looked a lot better than many of the women that passed me by. I have an athletic built many women do, and that’s 1 thing no surgery can change.

Posted to http://groups.yahoo.com/group/SandyMartinPhillyTGirls/message/2409

The same question is addressed here

By: Jessica De Leon

Jessica De Leon — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 23:07:32 +0000

I can relate to the body hair thing, that’s why I keep my Philips Bodygroom handy …

By: Julie M Shaw

Julie M Shaw — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 16:42:58 +0000

For me, I was cursed with what I call, “Mediterranean Fur” – my Italian heritage sprouts all over my body. However, I have “killer legs” (according to my spouse) and I know that my eyes can look VERY feminine and alluring. So, I wear long sleeves and short skirts!

By: Jessica De Leon

Jessica De Leon — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 06:59:01 +0000

Many transgendered people worry about this, I can see how it can be something to be insecure about. Best of luck with it and thanks for sharing

By: Jessica Sideways

Jessica Sideways — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 03:16:18 +0000

While I am not a crossdresser (I am a transsexual), I will have to say that I do have an insecurity about my female presentation and it is my voice. I think it is too deep and I worry that it’s one of those things that has a high likelihood of outing me.

By: Jessica De Leon

Jessica De Leon — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 15:56:27 +0000

Thanks, Neutrina. Exactly, we must consciously appreciate our good qualities otherwise we may end up feeling very bad about ourselves

By: Neutrina

Neutrina — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 15:55:31 +0000

A very interesting post.

I’m not particularly experienced at crossdressing, but I think your point about emphasising characteristics that help enhance our femme look is an important one. I’ll need to try and remember that, because I often wish a lot of things about myself were less obviously masculine. I don’t know, I’ll have to see how I feel when I’ve had more practice!

By: Jessica De Leon

Jessica De Leon — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 15:20:56 +0000

That is very true, dressing up as woman leaves you very exposed. Normally men wear shirts with sleeves yet most tops for women are either sleeveless or have a very tiny sleeve. That is why we battle with the dreaded ‘farmer’s tan’ *ugh*

By: SheenV

SheenV — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 15:19:02 +0000

One thing I learned when I first started fully dressing in women’s clothes in public is how ‘out there’ everything is for women. Women’s clothes are very revealing – skirts show the legs, many blouses are short- or 3/4 sleeved, necklines are more open than men’s, clothing in general is much more fitted. I mean, as a man looking at women, my head turns at every short skirt, low-cut blouse, and other revealing attire that passes me by. Now when I wear women’s clothes I realize how they must feel – there’s not a lot to hide behind if one wants to wear nice clothes and not look frumpy. So all the flaws are also out there to be seen.

By: Jessica De Leon

Jessica De Leon — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 14:56:32 +0000

I definitely understand getting all dressed up and being insecure with how you look or if you ‘pass’. Kudos on getting over your insecurities

By: Lindsey Luck

Lindsey Luck — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 14:55:45 +0000

I used 2 be so scared to leave my house in drag because I am a big girl. But hey, now I’m a performer so I take pride in my look. I really love my legs and my chest. Thank you for sharing this I really can relate

By: Jessica De Leon

Jessica De Leon — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 13:49:46 +0000

Glad you enjoyed it Stephanie

By: Stephanie

Stephanie — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 13:48:00 +0000

Thanks for this great perspecive. I worte a similar piece on using what we have. It is so true that we crossdressers focus on the flaws and not on the areas that we shine.

Steph