A few months ago my wife and I were talking about crossdressing and we approached the topic of underwear. Many, if not all, cross-dressers experience intense feelings — emotional and otherwise — when wearing women’s underwear. Everyone’s experience differs slightly but all in all wearing lingerie is thrilling, exciting, daring and amazing.
However, both genetic and trans women do not undergo the same adventure, because after all, it’s an everyday thing. Wearing a bra and pair of panties is just another step in getting ready for the day. We discussed this at length, comparing and contrasting the feelings I have versus what she experiences on a daily basis.
After our discussion I began kicking around some ideas in my head. I wondered what it would be like to wear a bra every single day until it became routine and even mundane. What emotions would I experience, how would my wife react and how much would our laundry bill increase? As I pondered these and other questions, I seriously considered this idea. Which brings me to. . .
The Experiment – Wearing a Bra Every Day For a Month
Starting today, February 15th, I will be wearing a bra every single day for exactly one month. Yes, that’s right. Whether I’m working, sleeping, eating, shopping, partying, gaming, exercising, worshiping, cleaning or doing anything else (and whether I want to or not) I will be wearing the undergarment in question.
First and foremost, I proposed the idea to my wife and she is 100% supportive. With her blessing, I am venturing forward and will be documenting my progress and thoughts during the month-long experiment. Given my habit of cross-dressing only once a month or so, I only possess three or four bras. Because of this, I will need to purchase a couple more so that I am not doing laundry every few days.
I also must consider how things will show through clothing. Seeing that we are in Winter and temperatures are currently dictating outerwear, this may not be a problem during the first couple of weeks.
Why am I doing this for 30 days? Well, because many companies allow you to try products for thirty days, giving you ample time to really find out how you feel about it. Also, I fully expect that somewhere during this experiment, it will become habit.
What This Isn’t
I would like to emphasize one thing – this is absolutely not a joke or a mockery of any kind. For many of us in the transgender community, something as simple as wearing a bra can be life-altering. I am not condescending or parodying this in any way.
Each day I will be recording my results – the what, why and how I feel during this undertaking. I will do this with a combination of note taking and audio dictation. I will update my status frequently, though I’m not quite sure what that rate will be as of yet.
Of course, the written word simply will not suffice for some people who will require additional proof to believe in what I am doing. Keeping this in mind, I will be snapping discrete and tasteful pictures that I will share on this blog that will accompany my writings.
Questions I Will Consider
Here is a brief but ever expanding list of things I will consider during this month:
- Will wearing a bra become boring, tedious and/or annoying?
- Will wearing a bra irritate my skin?
- Will I, at certain points, forget that I am wearing a bra?
- Will doing the laundry take on new significance?
- At what point, if any, will it shift from “crossdressing” to “habit”?
- What feelings will my wife experience?
- At the end of the trial, will I miss wearing a bra?
Also, following feminist research, I expect to be reflexive in these questions, therefore they will probably change and be expanded upon.
Any Suggestions? Join In?
If you are curious about anything, would like to suggest something or just want to cheer me on — feel free to express it in the comments section.
Also, if you’d like to join me in this experiment and share your findings and feelings, you’re more than welcome to!