I did not have a chance to dress up this weekend, but I’ve been pondering a comment that my wife made to me last Saturday night as I was about to change and wash off all the makeup that I had caked on my face.
My wife was already in bed, nestled under the sheets with a book as I walked into the room. I smiled and informed her of my immediate plans and as soon as I finished she says to me. . .
“You know, you make a prettier woman than you do a handsome man”
Whoa, what? At first, I was flattered by her compliment, because as strange as it may sound, I feel so much joy inside when my wife validates my feminine side is such a sweet way. However, the more I thought about it, the more confused I became!
Don’t get me wrong, I wasn’t upset or anything like that. It was just an odd thing for me to hear. As I mentioned in last week’s journal entry, both aspects of my gender identity need to be cared for and looked after for me to feel truly happy.
I wondered though, was this a “backhanded compliment”, as they say? By saying this, was she implying that I was an ugly man? For the moment, I didn’t mention anything and went about my business. Then after a couple of days, I forgot about it altogether.
Well, as fate would have it, I started thinking about what I would blog about this week and this little tidbit resurfaced. As we left church after Easter service yesterday, I brought up the remark.
She smiled and said, “No offense, I mean, you are a good looking guy and all, but you are also a very pretty woman.”
What more could a husband ask for? 
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as for me I got I loved you as a handsome man and you make an ugly woman! can’t ask for more than honesty in a relationship I guess.
Awwwwww – I’d give anything to hear those words from my spouse. You are SO blessed to have her, Jessica! ~~~sigh~~~
Ive never had anyone say just that, but people have told me what a pretty girl I am when dressed up. Ive never had a women ever say Im handsome when dressed as a man tho, so where does that leave me?Interesting, but it doesnt bother me in the slighest. I just go on with life knowing how good I feel on the inside no matter how I am dressed.There are positives to both sides but I do like to shop for cute cloths if that tells me anything.
very cool Jess
What more indeed? Oh, wait. I’ve found a list.
No… wait, it’s my wife’s list. Ahh. Tea in bed, less grumbling from him indoors, fair use of the remote control… 
I envy you Jessica !
Nice girl! It’s amazing to be validated by your wife. =)
Someday I’d like to experience that from my bf/husband…..someday! =)
lol
<3 Jerica
Well, judging from the pics I’ve seen of you on Crossdressers.com, I’d have to say your wife is right (interestingly enough, you actually remind me of a girl I know)! I can relate to the whole over-analysis thing, though; it’s a bad habit of mine as well.
Oh that is awesome!
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