So I’m sitting in my cubicle the other day, diligently working on my latest assignment and minding my own business, when all of a sudden my phone vibrates. I looked at my phone and saw that I had received a new text message from my sister.
My first thought was that she was just saying a quick hello, but as I read the contents of the message, my jaw dropped,
“I know ur secret”
My Crossdressing Secret Revealed?
How could this have happened? Was it possible that my wife or my mother accidentally spilled the beans? Did she find my blog or one of my videos on the internet? How in the world did she discover this???
For several minutes, my heart raced as these and many more queries flew through my mind. I waited a while and then bit the bullet, sending my response:
Huh? What secret?
I texted my mom and then Rebecca about this and eagerly awaited to hear back. Seriously, how could this have happened? Neither knew anything.
Well, Could This Be So Bad?
As I sat there, very unsure of what would happen next, I began to think about the situation. First, up to that point I hadn’t told my sister about Jessica. I have a variety of reasons for this, and wasn’t sure when the right circumstances for this would materialize.
Would she be upset with me for not telling her? How would she think of me now knowing that I like to wear dresses and paint my nails?
Funny thing is, she didn’t reply for almost a half an hour, giving me plenty of time to ponder the predicament. Soon, I felt as if a great pressure had been relieved. Coming out to someone you love is very difficult and even though I’ve done it a few times, I’m not sure that it’s gotten any easier.
Well, I though, the cat’s out of the bag. I’m confident and proud and would explain everything and answer all of her questions. Now I don’t have to worry about sitting down and having the slightly awkward conversation.
However, I was curious as to why I hadn’t received a reply, so I sent her another message.
A Cartoon Quote?
She then replied, “your the best around.” Now I was really confused, so I called her. What in the world was going on?
She answered and I asked her what she meant by her messages. Turns out that she was quoting last night’s episode of a cartoon that we both watch! An episode that I missed, causing the misunderstanding of sorts.
Oh. So she doesn’t know. Back to the drawing board, as they say. My mom asked me how I felt while I was thinking that my sister had found out and I told her that I actually started feeling a bit relieved.
Moving Forward
Will I eventually tell her? Probably. Do I know when this will be? Not a clue. All I know is that for now, my secret is still just that, secret.
Question To You / Comments
How would you have reacted if someone very close to you (family or friend) appeared to have found out your secrets?
Has someone suddenly found out one of your secrets and contacted you about it? How did you feel and what did you say?
All in all, I am happy that she didn’t really find out, because I do want to be the one to share the secrets about my advanced feminine side. I’m hopeful that this will happen when we are both ready.
photo credit: Azure Begonia
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I got a similar shocker this morning. A co-worker and friend who I ride with to work just kinda popped up and said, “I know about Ruth…”
Since I’m not yet out at work, this was earthshaking. HR knows, and we’re working through a careful coming-out, but it’s not *supposed* to be general knowledge yet.
The good news is, he’s very supportive. But I had a few shaky moments there. Sometimes my world wobbles suddenly, and I wish it’d stop. Definitely a wake-me-up for Monday morning!
Well that is great news (supportive)… I know the shocked feeling one gets when you discover someone has found out.
Not like this, but I did have my Mother-In-Law walk in on Julie one afternoon. Not the ideal way to broach the subject, but there it was! We talked, with me still in drag, and she was VERY cool about it. I reassured her that her daughter knew all about this before we got married, and she expressed her judgment that I had the best legs in the family. Still haven’t come out to my brothers and sister, and since they all live 3,000 miles away, I don’t see it happening anytime soon.
Did she start singing “She’s got legs” at all the family gatherings? Hehe, just kidding
Well, how bad could it be? I found out one of mt sisters knew all about me. My brother’s wife (he is also TG) told her. I was mortified! There was no question about it- she told me to my face and that her husband knew as well. Oh shit!
She didn’t care. She is of the generation that is very accepting and she has lived around it for a long time. I was relieved but I still felt violated. Once trust is gone- its gone. What do I do now?
Well it is funny you posted this now because I have been thinking of this. I am going to visit Triangles Cafe in Danbury CT this Saturday. I have a wickedly hot new dress to wear and I know I will have many pictures taken. I will choose the best of them and send her one so as there is no doubt how Ellen steps out!!! Wanna see?
And I am at the point with my side of the family that I no longer care. I did then, but not now, things have changed.
A new chapter? Who knows.
Ellen
Absolutely, please share the photos.
That’s great, I am so happy when I hear stories of acceptance
My daughter and wife spread the word to the entire family about two years ago. My sister said it was fine with her but advised counsiling if I was going to be a TS. This has been a life long thing and I finally decided that I needed to express the female side which was always there since I could ever remembe. Everyone seems to be cool about the entire thing but my wife still resents pierced ears and my long hair.
That’s interesting. So is your wife okay with it except for those two things?
My family knows, I came out to them before I moved to Colorado. Everyone at my school knows that I am T and there’s no one here that would know my old name. Everyone here knows that I’m Jessica and honestly – that’s how I’d prefer to keep it.
That’s awesome darling
It’s always best to wait until you’re comfortable to reveal your secrets. Go with your gut.
FD
Very true, sound advice
My wife eventually found out because I had been going away from home to go out in public. She had noted traces of lipstick on my lips. She then suspected I had been seeing another woman. So then I had to tell her and show her by dressing up in my femme clothing plus showing where I kept my stash of clothing. After a few months she began to accept my being a CD. She then made some rules as to when and where I could dress. That was after we visited to meet other CDs. Some of these she liked almost instantly. Then she invited one too our home who lived nearby. Seeing how much CD clothing I owned she also told me-If I bought any more clothing I must always buy something for her. We then went out dressed together to choose what I buy and what I buy for her. That now was over 30 years ago I have now been a Cd for 55 years + Another condition is that I must do all the house work and cook meals.
What a great story, I’m very happy for you Joanna !!!
Telling my sisters was the hardest bit of coming out I did. It took me years and a letter sent through snail mail to do it. When I got the phone call saying that she had read the letter and was supportive. I was relieved she then ended the call with a joke about staying out of her closet.
My wife and two kids found out about my dressing when I accidentally left a video of me en femme in the VCR. We were all in the living room when my daughter hit PLAY and my son says “Hey… Thats Dad!”. Needless to say I had some ‘splaining to do. That was about 5 years ago. Every once in a while I leave my panties on the floor when I shower by accident and my daughter just picks em up and puts them in the hamper like it’s no big deal. I wear panties 24/7
After my daughter moved out I looked through a file cabinet she had left for me and found a note “I know about you wanting to be a woman”
Heart attack, stroke and sizure all at once.
After I read the note I felt much better because she really accepted me plus she told me my wife already knew so I was able to come out which was rough at first but now my life is much better.
I had only been married to my wife about six months when I decided to tell her I liked to wear lingerie and women’s clothes. I had thought getting married would cure me of this obsession but, funny thing, that didn’t seem to work either. So we sat down across from each other and I started off with a preface like, “I hope you don’t mind and I wont bother you with it if it’s a problem but….”. Now my wife is a very jealous woman and if I cheated on her you’d probably read about the killings in the news, “Husband and girl friend shot dead by enraged wife.” So as I started to speak the fear that leaped to her mind was that I was about to tell her I had found another woman. When I got to the part about wearing women’s clothes her look was one of relief. She then smiled and said, “Oh, is that all? Go ahead. I don’t mind.” My jaw hit the floor and bounced a couple times before I said, “Really?!?!” I was incredulous and could hardly believe my good fortune at age 28. No one, not friend, family or professional counselor, had ever accepted my little preoccupation. Yet here was my wife not only accepting but willing to help. Fantastic! About 11 years later when I finally found out it was possible to make contact with other Ts like me I was delighted to get fully cross dressed, got my name and had a blast going on many adventures shopping, dining, dancing, attending meetings and conventions.
My two daughter’s caught me asleep in lingerie before I got out as Shirley and it frightened them not knowing what had happened to me but my wife explained it to them and they had no problem accepting it after that. The corker was appearing on the Leeza Gibbons show in mid 1995 with three other cross dressers, my wife and daughter, while I was working for Bugle Boy Industries as a Sr. programmer/analyst. I was at work the day the show aired and was anxious about what the reaction would be. Well the grapevine lit up as if lightning had struck it right after it aired and my coworker Bob let me know he knew because another coworker who was home sick watching the show had called him about it. By the end of the day the whole company knew and I braced myself for feedback and static but guess what. Nothing happened. No one other than Bob mentioning it said a word or gave me any looks. Everyone went on with business as usual and I kept working there for another year.
I and my homme self, Gordon, are also on Facebook. Gotta pick up my fluffy self and run to my favorite deli before they close.
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Take care Jessica. I think your way cool girl.
Shirley