Usually when I write an article about some form of injustice (no matter how big or small), it is society against the LGBTQ community. However, today I want to highlight something that is from within the community, specifically the crossdressing community.
I know that not everyone will agree but it is something that I’ve witnessed and I feel that it is worth mentioning.
Young Crossdressers Only?
This article concerns a practice on certain crossdresser message boards where pictures are shared for the rest of the community to enjoy and give feedback.
Now, before anyone thinks this is something I made up, it was brought to my attention by not only seeing it happen but also by various community members speaking up about it.
Basically what happens is that “young and attractive” crossdressers will post pictures and get lots of responses and attention (usually of the variety “you’re hot”, “looking sexy”, “love your look”, etc.) while “older or less attractive” crossdressers will share photos and barely get two replies.
Why am I bothering to write this? Well, because I strongly believe that in a community as ostracized as ours, we all deserve attention and validation. It is difficult enough to make those first steps out of the closet (even it is online) and muster up enough courage in sharing photographs without worrying if we are “pretty or sexy” enough.
In a way, the message boards become a microcosm of some of the things that are wrong with society. People deemed less appealing are pushed to the bottom of the list at the expense of their self-esteem and confidence.
While I don’t have much time for message board participation lately, in the past I have made it a point to find the threads with only 2 or 3 replies and add my own response, hopefully doing my part in being there for my crossdressing sister.
We are all valuable no matter what age, shape or form and we should strive to make everyone in the community feel valued. Why turn a message board into a virtual meat market?