Welcome to Jessica Who?, I hope that you enjoy your visit.
Back in 2002, I started a crossdressing website under the moniker “latina_cd” and I took it down after feeling shameful about it. Unfortunately, I left many members in the dark as they had contacted me for advice and I never responded. I have vowed to do things better this time around and I will do my absolute best to reply to every message that I receive.
FAQ 2.1 (Updated November 24th, 2012)
I’m not a crossdresser, why should I read this blog?
First off, welcome again. I feel that we as crossdressers are a very misunderstood group. For example, many may be surprised that I am straight, married and a college graduate with two degrees in Computer Science. Most of my hobbies are the same as any other typical 20-something year old American male, such as sports, video games and action movies.
With Jessica Who? I aim to share my stories with the world to educate, support and entertain. I’m also a video content creator on YouTube and a stand-up comedian!
Help! I’m a crossdresser and I don’t know what to do?
Remain calm, and start your journey to self-acceptance. There is nothing odd or freakish about you. There are plenty of other guys in your same situation and many of them are on the internet ready and willing to lend an ear. At Jessica Who? you’re sure to find stories to which you can relate.
Dig into the archives and you will read about my early experiences, trials, and tribulations. You will no doubt find that we have much in common and yes, it can and will get better for you.
Help! My boyfriend / husband is a crossdresser, what does this mean?
More than likely, he just wants to express his feminine side. You can play a major role in his development if you just accept and support him. If you are not yet married, it is best to explore this together and set boundaries that you are both happy with. If you’d like to read things from a wife’s perspective check out my wife’s blog here.
My best advice for couples is to remain loving, patient, and caring. Figure out exactly what his cross-dressing means to him and what type of role it will play in your lives.
Help! My son / brother / nephew is a crossdresser, what now?
Please support him, because at this point most of society won’t. Love him unconditionally and encourage him to be himself. I told my mother about Jessica in December of 2009 and she has been extremely comforting after learning this big news.
I conducted an interview with her for my blog and you read it here.
My mother is now one of my biggest fans and she is no doubt someone I look up to!
Help! My best friend is a crossdresser!
Here is the story of how I told my best friend about Jessica.
Keep calm, he’s still a dude. You can still go out for beer and wings and watch football. He may even be a better wingman than your other guy friends.
Should I tell my wife or girlfriend?
If you are not yet married, I highly suggest that you tell your girlfriend about your highly tuned feminine side. It will be best for you, her and the relationship if you can discuss your origins, feelings and intentions so that both parties feel satisfied.
It (most likely) will not be easy, but both my wife and I feel very strongly about the need for disclosure before marriage. Do not fool yourself into thinking that marriage will eradicate your need to wear women’s clothing. If you would like advice on how to tell your partner, feel free to contact me.
What’s purging and how do I stop it?
Purging is the act of trashing all of your clothing and accessories in an effort to purge your system of all things crossdressing. Trust me, this never works. I as well as others like us have tried this with no success. Virtual Purging is the act of deleting your internet history of all things crossdressing in the same vein. Just don’t do it. You can read my post about purging here.
When it comes to purging, do the opposite of Nike’s slogan: “Just Don’t Do It.”
Do you want a sex change?
No, I am extremely happy being a man, and I do not intend to alter my body at all. I embrace both my masculinity and femininity and feel that I would not be the person that I am without both aspects. When not dressed as Jessica I play sports, collect action figures (TMNT, He-Man, Thundercats), watch movies, and spend time with my wife.
You must have been a sissy growing up.
Quite the contrary. I played numerous sports including football, baseball, basketball, soccer, among others. I had some trouble early on with the ladies but was fine once my confidence developed.
Just because a man enjoys his feminine side doesn’t mean he’s weak. In fact, he is more of a man than most because he is secure in his own masculinity.
So are you trying to tell us that you are a typical dude?
For the most part, yes. That’s what most of us crossdressers want, to be considered normal. There is nothing wrong with dressing up like a lady whether in private or public. It is all a matter of perspective and educating the general public.
How can I get a hold of you?
Do you make public appearances?
Yes, I do! I perform live comedy (stand-up, improv), I am a public speaker specializing in crossdresser / transgender issues, and I am a YouTube personality with millions of views and tens of thousands of subscribers! Feel free to contact me about appearances .
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